Tuesday, January 18, 2011

AND WE'RE BACK!!!!! -A.

Hello, our beloved interweb friends! We are back online!

Kudos to Blogger for their wonderful tech support. While they weren't fast, they were thorough and did a great job fixing our bugs. Thank you techies!

I will be posting regularly again, now that my computer isn't trying to wage a war with the blog website. S. will be back soon. We're having a stressful time right now. Her father was laid off, school has just started back, her family is throwing fits, and she hasn't been in town for two and a half weeks. And through all this, we haven't had a lot of contact thanks to computer issues and mis-matched schedules.

It's funny how stress has affected our libidos. It's been almost five days without any intimate time for either of us, and usually this would have us drooling for each other. Our main love language is physical touch, and we have opened up our sexuality to each other, meaning that after a certain period of time (usually two days) hormones build up, sex drives boost, and we get revved up non-stop. But this stress has us all out of wack. Our hormones will go crazy then we'll get angry, then we get sad and tired, then revved up again. I'm guessing that our hormones and bodies are ready for release, but with the stress we aren't mentally ready.

We can both get off from mental stimulation. S. will regularly need to take breaks during fantasies, even when she isn't touching herself at all. I've come close also. Since I'm a guy, I needed a stroke or two to finish. I'll be talking about that in a minute too! I've been experimenting a lot.

Without that mental arousal, S. and I can't be horny. It's nearly impossible, since our bond is deeper than just physical. If we just did all this and dated for years and went out to dinner and on dates JUST because we thought the other was hot, then it might. But we genuinely care about the other person. We are in love, and that affects our intimacy. It is deeper than just skin and touch. We love that deep connection that comes with long, intimate touching or fantasies. We are not quickie people. We are marathon people. I'm hoping and praying that these situations work out, so we can go back to being happy together.

Now, my experimenting. I've been wanting to gain sensitivity in my penis. My masturbation and/or edging routine in the past has involved three things: Speed, Grip, Stealth.

I wanted to get in, get off, and get out. I had to teach my body how to delay an orgasm. Now I can last for a while and don't feel that urgency to get off because OH NO I'LL GET CAUGHT or OH MY GOD I'LL BE LATE FOR WORK or I REALLY NEED TO GET TO BED. I can now relax and enjoy my self-pleasure and phone sex. I set aside time at least once a week. I take a bath, get some dark chocolate as a treat, make myself feel good and relaxed, then call S. and we have a mixture of crazy hot and dirty phone sex and sickeningly sweet conversation. We can pause a fantasy and have a conversation in the middle and stay turned on and go right back into the fantasy. The only time this doesn't work is when S. or I starts a very un-sexy conversation, like our families or issues or stuff that worried us or makes us stressed.

So that was a success. Now I'm working on sensitivity. I've been avoiding my actual cock. I've been doing a lot of taint stimulation and anal play, as well as Kegels. I've been doing very little touching, and when I do touch it I use my fingertips and light strokes rather than the monkey grip. It seems to be working. I'll report back on it later.


Now as an apology to you all, I have our first review for On Sex and Night Skies!

Today I'm going to be talking about Astroglide's Astroglide X Premium Silicone Personal Lubricant. I picked up a bottle, and it is my new favorite lube for a few different reasons.
First, performance. It is really concentrated, but still thinner. I did not have to use much at all, which was amazing. A tiny dab on my fingertip would spread across my entire finger. A tiny amount spreads unbelievably far and works soooo well. It feels amazing, and really is smooth. It did not dry up for me even after long play sessions, and stays on whatever you put it on. As long as you use the proper amount, it would not drip or move around. It coats your skin in what feels like microscopic ball bearings. For anal play, again I put a tiny dab on my fingertip an it coated my entire finger and anus, and made the whole experience feel incredibly pleasurable and easy and fun! It stays put in water (Hot tub fun, anyone???) and you really have to wipe it off with a towel.

Second, convenience. It comes in a little 2.5 ounce bottle, and is relatively inconspicuous. I put it in my medicine cabinet, label facing away from door, and no one has even noticed it. The people I live with wouldn't freak out about it, but I wanted to see if they would notice since they're pretty good about noticing stuff like that. Also, the size means it's small enough to be a carry-on item for a plane trip. So convenient.

And the biggie: I found it in Walmart. I bought mine from a pharmacy, but then I saw it in Walmart. That's huge for me! Any teenager looking for lube can now just go to Wally-world and pick it up for around ten bucks. That's so convenient to be able to go to a major, common store chain and be able to pick it up, since a lot more people have access to a Walmart than a sex shop or pharmacy that carries good lubes. It's readily available across America, which gives it the convenience award. It's also less embarrassing. I know Victoria's Secret and other adult stores carry more lubes, sometimes at a better price, but some people may feel embarrassed getting it there (even though those shoppers and store employees see people buy way crazier stuff all the freaking time, and won't bat an eye at a nervous person buying a moderate amount of personal lubricant). At Walmart, you can get bread, eggs, lube... It's much more low-key, less intimidating, and more causal. And more convenient!

So Astroglide X Silicone takes the awards for lubrication for me, thanks to it's solid performance and convenience! Hooray!

-A.

P.S. Astroglide gives out free samples. Just saying.

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