I am thoroughly enjoying being engaged to A. Like, I'm loving every second of it! But there's one thing we've been struggling with through the beginning of our engagement: stress.
Now obviously we've struggled with that before, but we especially have now. And stress harms our intimacy.
A. and I have missed our sex life immensely, but currently, we couldn't boost it regardless of our desires to "go at it". A. has a cyst in one of his testicles. He may have to have surgery if it gets any worse. He is in pain when he drives, sits, bends over, etcetera... it kills me to see him in so much pain. It hurts him to be aroused sometimes.
Before this happened, I was on my period, and it's very difficult for us to get into it when I'm menstruating. Now, when I am on my period, I love to be groped by A. and to hear him talk dirty to me.
But, as A. and I are planning our legal marriage.. our wedding.. we have been trying to arouse (so to speak) our intimate life, and to regain our open communication. We are going to go to premarital counseling, and we are reading up on so many different ways to help our relationship pre-marriage.
Our wedding is just a year away, and we have so much to get done between now and then, but the most important thing is our relationship. If I were to wear jeans and a ratty tshirt, and A. sweat pants and a PJ shirt to our wedding, none of that would matter so long as our relationship were in a good place.
Now fear not, my sweet little readers, we have never EVER come even close to breaking up. That would never, and will never happen. But, I want to tell all of you in a serious relationship, don't let stress get in the way of your sex life with your partner. No matter what, continue to have sex, cuddle, hug each other, KISS. For goodness sakes, TOUCH EACH OTHER. It's one of the best ways to bond after a fight. My favorite thing to do after a fight: have wild, rough intimate time. Pound into each other, have crazy, wild sex.
More later,
S.
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